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Sometimes parents can stay together even though the relationship has finished...... just for the sake of the children.
This might seem to be the best thing for everyone....... but is it?
Recently, my oldest granddaughter seems as though she has had a weight lifted from her shoulders. You can see it in her face and manner.
The reason why?
Because her Mum, who has been divorced from her daddy for a long time, has recently moved out and found her own place nearby.
The girls have been staying with her for for a night or two and regularly go for tea after being picked up from school.
They spend two nights with me when I baby sit them, and the rest of the week is spent with their dad.
This way they have a really good time with everyone.
At one point, it seemed my heart was ripped open when my oldest granddaughter said, "There was such a big quarrel going on last night and I just had to try and block it out."
Although both the girls have always seemed to be well adjusted children, I think this situation did seem to be causing a strain on both of them without anyone realising it. It is only now that the difference can be seen and it is a pleasure to see the release of a burden that has suddenly slid off their shoulders. They seem to be both blossoming into happier children.
Trying to keep positive about the situation when they first had to cope with it, I said, " Aren't you lucky that you have three homes where you are loved! Mummy's home to visit, Daddy's and mine."
It wasn't long before they realised that they had four homes because there is always going to be one in Japan with the other Grandparents.
So they did brighten up when they realised this because I don't suppose that many other children have so many different homes.
Unless you know of some that do.