Sunday, 3 January 2016

New Years Resolutions?


I've had two weeks of none stop company. It's been lovely.
My daughter spent a week with me over Christmas and then on the 29th, we went back to her house on the east coast. It's more or less across England in a straight line. I live on the West side and she lives on the East. It's about 178 miles. 
I was brought back home yesterday and after an over night stay, daughter's left for home again. I'm sure by tomorrow I will have adjusted to my own company but now it seems very quiet.

I have survived our Wedding Anniversary, Christmas and now the New Year without Harry, so I only have the Birthdays to face this year. However, it's all much more complicated than that. Grief can hit you in the most unexpected places and times ....... but I've had a good time over the holidays and we went visiting different towns around her home area and the weather was kind to us, unlike it was  here. I've been told it has rained constantly over the holidays here in the West of England.

My New Years Resolution? To just get on with life and try to live it to the full. I have to cut down on food as well, as we've done nothing but eat over the holidays.
What about you, have you made any new Years Resolutions?


16 comments:

Marie Smith said...

I am so glad that you enjoyed the holidays, getting through so many firsts without your loved one. I think of grief as a wall that appears out of nowhere sometimes, you struggle over and move on for a while until it next rears its head. The thing is, if you hadn't loved, you would not be dealing with this grief. I would not give up the love just to avoid grief. How about you?

Happy New Year!

ADDY said...

The first year is the worst - first birthdays, first anniversaries etc - but it does get gradually better. Just let the waves of grief wash over you. You do bounce back. Wishing you a peaceful and healthy 2016. x

rosaria williams said...

We do get on, some days better than others. To live is to carry losses after all; who hasn't doesn't understand. Your children do, and they pitch in. May your new year open up new horizons as well.

Jackie said...


I'm so glad that you had a wonderful time with family. Makes me happy to know that our sweet Maggie had a lovely Christmas and new year.
It is interesting to hear you say that grief strikes at the most unexpected times and unexpected places. That is so true, my friend. Strong and overcoming grief can happen when one least expects it. Gentle hugs to you.
Know that I continue to pray for you.
Love you,
Jackie

FeltByRae said...

So glad you had lovely holidays. Which bit of the east did you visit? I've moved back to Norwich from Somerset now and both parts of the country have their own special charms

I once read a book that had the phrase 'grief has no timetable' that has always stuck in my mind and I've found it it to be very true. Warmest thoughts to you Maggie xxx

Gosia k said...

have a peaceful and blessed year.

Celia said...

May the New Year treat you gently Maggie. Glad you had Christmas with those that love you.

dianefaith said...

I'm glad you had time with your daughter and that you escaped the rain. We've been inundated here and the local river, the Ocmulgee, crested considerably above flood stage. I don't make specific resolutions, since I've finally figured out I don't keep them. I can't think of a better general one than yours, Maggie -- live life to the full. I can make an effort in that direction anyway. I wish you many happy and content days as this new year rolls forward.

Wisewebwoman said...

Good that you were busy over the hols. Nothing better.
Here's what I'm doing daily this year:

Made a list of all the things that make me happy.

Made a list of all things I do every day.

Compared the lists.

Adjusted accordingly.

So there you go m'dear :)

All the happies your heart can hold.

XO
WWW

Shammickite said...

Maggie.... I'm glad that you enjoyed the Christmas holidays, and were able so spend time with your daughter away from your home, which must be full of memories. You are a strong person, you've overcome so many hard times, and now you have time for yourself. Enjoy it!

Expat mum said...

Glad to hear you've had a nice Xmas and New Year. You deserve it. xx

Sally Wessely said...

I'm glad to read your Christmas went so well. You had family time, and you had good weather. That has to make for a great holiday season. Grief does make itself know at times when we least expect it. I hope the upcoming events will bring you warm memories rather than deep sadness.

I don't make resolutions. I do try to have a fresh start by cleaning and organizing and taking a look at how I can make my life less stressful and more productive and happy. I hope you have a wonderful new year. Blessings.

Rose said...

I'm glad you got to spend so much time with your daughter over the holidays and enjoyed yourself. I think the first holidays alone are the hardest of all. I make the same resolutions every year--watch what I eat, exercise more, etc.--and forget them all by the end of January. So this year, my main resolution is to enjoy the moment more. Wishing you all the best in the New Year!

Leilani Lee said...

I'm reminded of the song by Joni Mitchell "The seasons, they go round and round/and the painted ponies go up and down/we're captured on a carousel of time.." The anniversaries come whether we want them to or not, and in our case, the 5th anniversary of our son's death is fast approaching. I never know how I am going to feel -- sometimes the grief associated with it is surprisingly sharp and unexpected, even after time has passed. Thinking about you a lot these days. It will get better, but occasionally there are going to be relapses.

Donna said...

Glad to hear you had a good time...
I binged on X-Files and Longmire TV programs all weekend...peaceful!
hughugs

Wendy said...

I'm with you - cutting down on food, sweets in particular! So glad you were able to enjoy the holidays with family. That year of "firsts" is challenging. And you have to meet it head on. Can't avoid it, really.

But seems as though you have a good attitude and you will survive. Not easy and yes, that horrible wave of grief fairly sweeps you away without warning sometimes.

Sending lots of hugs and hope that rain lets up! I hear the flooding is bad in your part of the world.