Thursday, 10 September 2015

Celebration of Harry's Life


In my last post, I knew that Harry was really ill and hadn't much longer to live. I posted it on the Friday and by the evening the GP had rung me to say that he probably wouldn't last the weekend. So I planned to spend all day if necessary, on Saturday and his twin was going too and also my brother, Eddy
However, Harry had other ideas and decided to go to be with the Lord during the early hours of Saturday morning, so nobody got to see him before he died. I was disappointed and angry at first but now feel very grateful to have been able to sit with him and smooth his hair for a long time on Friday afternoon. He wasn't conscious anyway.

Now I have to plan the funeral. It is a lonely and overwhelming thing to be doing.
He loved bright colours and we don't want folk mooching about in black on his funeral day.
The grandchildren he loved so much will read poems and scripture and play musical instruments. We will sing his favourite hymns and tell each other afterwards all the little things that made Harry who he was. He'd have loved that and I sometimes find myself wishing I could tell him things that we're planning to do for him.

Although I've not had Harry with me at home for 6 months now and I'm so well used to being on my own in the house and making decisions and things like that, I shall miss him so much and will now have a large chunk of my day to fill in as I won't be going to visit him any more.

Harry, we almost made 53 years of married life. 
Thank you for being my faithful companion all these years of ups and downs. I have some wonderful and sometimes funny memories that nobody can ever take away from me.
I will always love you and you'll be missed more than you could imagine.
I know you've moved on to a better life, free from pain. I expect I'll be with you before too long.

Lots of Love


Thank you everyone who wrote such lovely comments in my last post. I will get back to you before too long.......

28 comments:

Jackie said...

Gentle hugs to you my friend.
Love to you......
Jackie

Fi from Four Paws and Whiskers said...

Thinking of you....

Gosia k said...

I am so sory. I believe Lord take him to the heaven. RIP. Thinking of you..

Gail said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I like to think Harry knows how he is being honored.

Celia said...

Sorry for your loss Maggie. Sending hugs your way.

Eddie Bluelights said...

Such beautiful words, Maggie . . . . we are both very fortunate to have loved our spouses so much and to be loved in return. I am sure they are together in paradise awaiting us when the time is right.

Meanwhile we have to carry on down here as best we can . . . . lots of love, Eddie :) xx

Expat mum said...

Oh my dear Maggie. I'm so very sorry. Condolences to you all and congratulations on such a wonderful marriage. xxx

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Shammickite said...

Harry has always known how much you love him, and that will never change, he still knows. Love goes on. Such a hard loss to bear. My sympathies are with you and the rest of your family. And also to his twin. The loss of a twin must be so very difficult.

dianefaith said...

In your last post you mentioned Harry waking up briefly to smile and say 'Hello.' It seemed very reassuring the way you described it. I know you have many sweet memories like that. I am sorry for your loss.

Rose said...

I am so sorry, Maggie. I know that you have been expecting this for sometime, but it is still so hard when the time comes. I hope that you take comfort in knowing that Harry is in a better place and free from pain, and that your memories of all the happy times together over so many years bring you peace and strength.
Hugs, Rose.

Bernie said...

Remember the good times Maggie, and know when the grief comes at you in a huge wave that it's okay, it too shall pass.
My heart breaks for you and I am praying for you and your family. Big hugs, xo

Mary Gilmour said...

Planning a celebration of his life is a good thing to do and a satisfying thing. Also creating a memory or memorial of some kind that will suit you and your thoughts of him.
So sad for you Maggie, but hoping that when you have time for yourself and the clouds break up a bit you can find a different kind of happiness.
Wishing I could give you a big hug and wrap you in a warm blanket in front of a lovely fireplace and watch you rest.

Hilary said...

I am so sorry for your deep loss, Maggie. My heart aches for you and your family. I am sending you a virtual hug and wishing I could deliver it in person. Wishing you and yours strength. Hugs and love to you.

Wisewebwoman said...

What an enormous loss Maggie, I am so very sorry that your life partner has left. Your emotions will be all over the place for quite a while.

Deepest, deepest sympathy and love.

XO
WWW

rosaria williams said...

So sorry to hear about your loss, Maggie. Big hug.

Suburbia said...

Dear Maggie
I'm so sorry for your loss. Reading all that you have written here over the years you couldn't have done more for him, you are a truly selfless and good person. I can only try to imagine how difficult things are for you right now.
The service plans sound lovely - take care my dear

( when you have more time in the day than you need, get in touch? I'm currently not working)
X

Ayak said...

I haven't been online much this past week Maggie so am only just catching up and reading your news. I am so sorry for your loss but at least Harry is now free from pain which must be a blessing. Sending you hugs and much love. Linda xxx

Jinksy said...

My heart goes out to you Maggie. ♥
Love and hugs,
Penny - alias Jinksy xx

FeltByRae said...

Dear Maggie

I am so sorry to hear of your loss

With love and warmest thoughts

Rae x

Suldog said...

Maggie, my sincerest condolences. I'm sorry I didn't get over here a bit earlier to say something. I commented on Eddie's post on FB, but didn't come here and shame on me. God bless you.

Secret Agent Woman said...

Oh, Maggie, I'm so so sorry for you loss. You clearly loved him deeply and I know that leave a gaping void. Holding you in my heart.

Leilani Lee said...

Knowing that a loved one is going to die doesn't make it any easier when it happens. So sorry to hear of his death. You have written a wonderful tribute to him. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Dear Maggie,
I have followed your blog via Eddie's and am so very sorry for your loss.
My heart and prayers are with you and yours.
xo Joanna

cheshire wife said...

Oh Maggie
I am so very sorry to read your sad news. Your post is a wonderful tribute to Harry and he would have been proud of you. I really hope that you will not be joining him soon.
CWx

Akelamalu said...

Oh Maggie I have been on holiday and not long been back and I am so very sorry to read this. Please accept my belated sincere condolences. Much love to you. xx

Retired English Teacher said...

I'm just reading this because I have been on vacation. I am so sorry to read of your loss. I hope each day has become a bit easier. I am sending you hugs and love as you go through this time.

Marie Smith said...

I just discovered your blog and I happened on this post. I'm so sorry that you lost your loved one. I cannot imagine what the last few months have been like for you.

I hope time is helping you to remember the good times more than the sorrow but it is early days yet. Sending all kind thoughts your way.