Saturday, 20 September 2008

The Resting Place



Everyone was really kind when I wrote my post A Modern Fairy Tale and left messages saying that the damsel did the right thing.

I said that the story had no ending. 
Very early this morning, the knight passed away in the hospice. Over the last week he became very ill and only then did the doctors say, 'Yes, it is terminal.'

During the last few days, the damsel made her peace with the knight and he was able to leave this world knowing that there had been an understanding and a kind of reconciliation.
The brown haired boy was able to go to see his father before he died and say goodbye to him.
The fair haired boy was much more upset about the oncoming death when he went to see him a few days before he died. He later asked the damsel, 'Will Dad still be shouting in Heaven?'
This is the boy who might be autistic and who is waiting for tests. He is the one who is having difficulty coming to terms with the death and also who might be more affected later on. We will have to see if the brown haired boy adjusts to the situation more easily.

The way forward will be difficult for the three of them, but I guess that once they get through the first year, the way might look more promising. I really hope so because they do deserve a better deal.

We shall be going to visit again for the funeral and for a short stay afterwards, but probably not till the end of the week. So if I disappear for a while, you know I will be back.

I guess there has been an ending after all................

49 comments:

leslie said...

I am SO sorry for everyone involved. But glad that reconciliation happened. I hope the damsel will be able to tell the fair-haired boy that his Dad is finally healed of all that was troubling him and that he is a perfect Dad now. That he was sick and couldn't help himself. Not knowing the ages of the boys, I hope they will be able to accept the change in their lives, forgive their father, and love their mother for standing by them. If you look at my "profile" you'll see that I had to deal with something similar when my girls were 12 and 15. We had a rough go of it, but have come out the other side okay, if scarred.

Maggie May said...

Thank you Leslie......yes, I noticed your side bar, tragic. These boys are 10 and 12!

Suzy said...

May the Knight rest in peace.

The Damsel has done the best for herself and the boys all along.

The Damsel and her boys will find peace, happiness in solace in knowing that in the end the right thing was also done.

Forgiveness does take time, but it does come.

God Bless the three of them.

Love,

Suzy

Mae said...

Even thought some things the Knight has done.....some not so good.....this part here almost brought tears to my eyes.

CrazyCath said...

You know my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Take care, and take time.

With love.

Jeni said...

My sympathy to you and your daughter, to the children as well. Perhaps just one word would express it best though -Peace!
May it be theirs as they begin to heal, as the knight has now done too.

Beryl Ament said...

I'm so very sorry.

RiverPoet said...

Maggie, I'm so terribly sad for you and your family, but God has offered His divine resolution to the matter. May you and your family find some peace now. Much love to you...

Peace - D

Bear Naked said...

My sympathy to your daughter and grandsons.
May the knight finally rest in peace.

Bear((( )))

Working mum said...

Heartbreaking story. I'm not sure there is a happy ending, but they can start to rebuild their lives now with some stability. My sympathy to all involved, including you and your husband who are supporting her in all this turmoil.

Suburbia said...

Such a peaceful photograph Maggie. I can't believe that the end came so soon but perhaps that was best. So good that there was a reconciliation.
I'm sure you're right, time is a great healer.
All my thoughts are with you and your family
Suburbia x

softinthehead said...

Sorry to hear the news Maggie, my thoughts are with you and your family at this time. I think the knight is now at peace and hopefully so will your family will also find some.

dottie said...

You and your family are so much in my thoughts. The transition time will be hard, but afterwards is peace and a new beginning. Hope the fair haired boy in particular will be ok.

Lindsay said...

Very sorry to hear the news - but the whole family were suffering dreadfully. I can only wish you all a peaceful recovery.

Irene said...

The knight is at rest and so, hopefully, his family will be. Give it some time, it heals many wounds. Things happen for a reason, even the timing of events does. We just don't always understand these things right away. May peace be with you all, now and forever.

aims said...

Leslie has said it so well Maggie and I am glad she did so.

I am so incredibly sad for you and yours.

I guess we have fairy tales that end happily because in real life it just isn't so.

I hope he has found peace on the other side. The poor man.

Huge hugs for your daughter and grandchildren - and for you. I know you will be needed a million times from now on and that you will be there for all of it. Bless you Maggie.

I lost an uncle to a brain tumour. Thankfully mine is so slow growing that it only makes itself known once in a while.

OvaGirl said...

Oh what a sad fairy tale Maggie. I hope that the damsel and her boys are able to heal quickly and smoothly and that there is a happy ending for them all.

GoneBackSouth said...

Thank you for sharing this Maggie. Life is for the living, and I hope that little family can re-build and move on now. Bless you all x

Rose said...

My condolences to your whole family. I am so glad the damsel was able to see him and have a reconciliation before he passed away. I'm sure this will help both her and the boys to deal with this tragic situation. The boys are lucky to have a loving mother and grandparents who care for them so much.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, Maggie May.

Wendy said...

I like the pic. It looks very peaceful. I also am happy that the damsel and her sons made peace with the knight before he left this earth. This will help the boys understand as they go through the healing process as a family.

My dad and I did not relate well in life. In death, I only see the gentle, caring man he was inside. Not the domineering often angry man he was later on in life.
I can now feel his love - which was there all the time...
God bless you and your family.

Ashley Ladd said...

Hugs. I'm so sorry to hear this. My condolences and prayers to you and your loved ones.

Sandi McBride said...

The ending may not be happy my Friend, but it isn't as bleak as it could have been. Our prayers will follow the Damsel and their children.
Sandi

cheshire wife said...

So sorry to learn that the knight had died. Hopefully he has gone to a better place and your daughter and family can rebuild their lives.

I was on holiday when you posted A Modern Fairy Tale but have now read it. It was beautifully written and so sad. There is an award for you on my blog.

menopausaloldbag (MOB) said...

Brain tumours - awful things that change behaviour as they encroach into the brain. Deeply sad story. the time to watch teh boys of course is after the funeral when things go quiet, then you'll know just how they are coping.

Deepest sympathies,

nanatrish said...

I am so sorry about your loss, but the Lord is in control and it sounds like your son-in-law is in a better place and the whole family can have peace. There are so many things in this world that are so hard to understand. I hate it that the boys had to go through that, but I pray this will make them stronger as they grow. I will be praying for them and your daughter. She did the right thing and I pray the Lord will comfort her and your whole family. God bless.

Mignon said...

Love, peace and prayers your way.

Lavinia said...

Oh dear. I don't know what to say. This must have been the most difficult period, for all of you. You've all been through the wringer, and not out of the woods yet. My hope is for the children, and their future. May the Lord bestow His peace and His blessings upon you all.

You are right, there was an ending...and now, there is also a new beginning.

Prayers for everyone....

the mother of this lot said...

Oh Maggie, I don't know what to say. I will pray that God comforts your family in the days and weeks ahead.

And may the knight rest in peace.

Bina said...

Oh My God! How very shocking. I don't know what's going on, but you are the 4th person I "know" that has had someone die in the past week, and one other one found out last Tuesday her mother had cancer, and her mother died on Saturday.

That poor family. It's still going to very hard for the damsel, no matter the situation. I'll pray for them, and for you.

Grit said...

i'm so sorry to read your post but glad that some peace was made. i hope that the future brings new strengths.

Robin said...

Wow, Maggie, that was really fast. I imagine it will take quite a while for the shock to wear off for all involved.

Robin said...

Oh and Maggie, give those boys a hug for me. Remember the "autistic" boy may not show his feelings, but it doesn't mean that they are not there. Hugs to you too.

Expat mum said...

Just want to add to what everyone else has said Maggie. Very sorry for your whole family.

Zip n Tizzy said...

Comfort to your daughter... Life forces us to make painful decisions.
So tragic for everyone what cancer does to the brain.
Now that there is quiet, I hope everyone can heal, and remember the knight in his shining days.
Blessings to all of you.

Mima said...

So sorry to hear that he has died, but glad for them that they had come to some sort of peaceful understanding, that will be so important to them as they try to carry on with their lives. You all have my sympathy as you start to deal with his death.

Maggie May said...

Many thanks everyone for your kind comments.
That really does mean a lot to me.
I am copying out the comments for my daughter to read when we go to the funeral next week. I know it will help her. Thank you.

Omykiss said...

I'm so glad that everyone made some kind of peace before the end. With a lovely granny like you, I'm sure the boys will eventually cometo terms with things. Peace be with you all.

Valleys Mam said...
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Valleys Mam said...

Rest in peace , for him and live in peace for his family
My girdad died when they were 4 and 2 they survived and have lived well and happy I remarried after 15 years to a good man who they love.Life isnt easy but it does have lots of easier bits

family affairs said...

Thank goodness the damsel has her fairy mother to keep her strong. I'm so sorry to hear the news. I remember when you were writing about the headaches - it only seems moments ago Lx

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Oh how sad, Maggie, but how well those lovely boys have coped with an impossible time. I hope your daughter is coping too. You have obviously been a tower of strength for them all. Love and thoughts are with you all at this sad time. M xx

Moannie said...

What a sad ending to a painful story, but hopefully a new beginning for those left to pick up the pieces. You have to believe that the Knight truly loved his family and the changes wrought by the tumour made him someone else.

Courage and strength fair damsel.

Live said...

Ultimately God is a merciful God. He resolves situations in ways beyond our understanding. The lesson the boys had will serve them in their grown up years. The Damsel's courage and love is an example to everyone. And the Knight (and his family) are not suffering anymore. Such a beautiful post - incredibly written. Thank you for sharing this story with us!

Carol said...

How sad. Your word-portrayal is touching. And the photo....serene and comforting. I will be back to read more. I came over from David's authorblog. Prayers for the family.

Hilary said...

Sending best thoughts your way. Here from David's

Kathryn said...

I am so sorry. I'm sending my prayers.

Here from David's.

The Rotten Correspondent said...

Oh, Maggie. I am so terribly sorry for your whole family.

xoxo

Fat, frumpy and fifty... said...

thinking of you all at this time..
bless..

Hadriana's Treasures said...

Maggie - I cannot say much more than what has been said already. I'm reading your posts backwards and now understand (I think)a bit more. Big hugs to you all and am glad the boys were able to see their Dad. It will mean a lot to them in days, months and years to come. H xx